Living a good life is best revenge

Local columnist

link Wendel Sloan

Here are more divorce stories from female readers:

• “I had to raise my boys without child support (it doesn’t matter what the courts say). For 15 years I balanced two to three jobs, made their games between work schedules, and kept up with their homework.

“There was no time to develop friendships or a support network; I had to financially provide. I feel like I lived in ‘survival mode’ for years.”

• “I was married at 18, had our first child at 20, then our second at 26. I spent 13 years of marriage trying to financially support my family and making every excuse in the book as to why my other half could not hold up his end of the bargain.

“I joined the Navy to help lift the financial burden — but my marriage fell apart even more. At the end I realized I couldn’t hold the tattered pieces together anymore, nor did I want to.

“Giving up is not an option, but there are days I feel like I’m going loopy.”

• “After my divorce, I moved 100 miles away. When our son got sick and died, my ex had a new family and friends to support him.

“I was alone in my grief, unable to stay with my son because of a room full of strangers. This was the hardest part of the divorce — and it was 30 years later.”

• “I met my husband the summer after he graduated and I was still in high school. We were compatible in every way, raised two sons and worked together to get his doctorate and had a nice home with savings and no debt.

“Just when I thought we had a downhill coast, his ‘mid-life crisis’ hit at 40 … when a 26-year-old receptionist started flirting with him.

“I remember the gut-wrenching pain (for five years). I would never have inflicted that pain on my family for some thrill in the sack.

“Now my life has only gotten better. Living a good life is the best revenge!”

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